In the heat of an argument or a moment of decision, you might find yourself asking: Do I want to be right… or do I want to be correct?
It may seem like the same thing at first glance, but there’s a big difference. Knowing that difference can change the way you communicate, problem-solve, and build relationships especially as a teen or young adult navigating school, work, or even just group chats.
What Does It Mean to Be “Right”?
Being right often means proving your point, standing your ground, and convincing others that your way is the way. People who want to be right usually care about winning the argument or making sure others see them as smart, strong, or in control.
This mindset usually comes from emotion i.e., pride, frustration, fear of being embarrassed, or a need to be seen as competent.
Example:
Let’s say you’re in a group project, and someone suggests a way to organize the slides. You jump in and insist on your way, even though theirs could also work. You might raise your voice or repeat yourself until everyone gives in. You feel like you won. You were “right.”
But… did it make the project better? Did it help the team feel heard? Or did it create tension?
What Does It Mean to Be “Correct”?
Being correct is about seeking truth and accuracy even if it means admitting you’re wrong or adjusting your opinion. People who aim to be correct care more about getting it right than being right.
This mindset is grounded in logic, openness, and a desire to learn or improve.
Example:
Back to that group project, if someone brings up a new approach, and you take a second to consider it, you might realize it’s actually more efficient. You say, “You know what? That could work better than my idea.”
That’s being correct. You put the goal (a better project) ahead of your ego.
Why the Difference Matters for You
Teens and young adults are often in situations where emotions run high with parents, teachers, friends, coworkers, or even romantic partners. Choosing whether to be right or to be correct can impact:
- Your relationships – People respect those who listen and adjust when needed.
- Your growth – Being correct means being open to learning and evolving.
- Your reputation – Leaders aren’t just people who know things; they’re people who admit when they don’t and take steps to learn.
- Your opportunities – Flexibility and humility are traits employers, mentors, and even college recruiters value.
Situations to Practice This Skill
Here are some real-life moments where you’ll need to decide:
- At work: Your manager gives you feedback that you didn’t expect. You could argue (being right), or you could reflect and improve (being correct).
- With friends: Someone calls you out for something you said. Will you defend yourself at all costs, or consider how they felt?
- At home: Your parents have concerns about your decisions. Will you tune them out or listen for what might actually help you?
The Final Word: Choose Your Battles and Your Mindset
Being right might feel good in the moment. But being correct gets you further in the long run. You don’t have to give in all the time just learn to pause and ask:
“Am I trying to win? Or am I trying to grow?”
At Emergent Life Skills and Education Consulting, we help young adults develop the emotional intelligence and decision-making skills to answer that question with confidence. By partnering with us, families can step back from being the constant coach and enjoy more meaningful time bonding knowing their teen is in good hands.
Because when you learn how to be correct, life gets a whole lot easier and more successful.
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